Man’s $6 demand after failed coffee date exposes relationship issue

A Sydney man who asked a woman to pay back the $6 he spent on her coffee during a date has exposed why modern relationships are doomed.

After he approached British expat Emily, 29, on a beach and asked her out for a drink, she agreed to meet him and the pair later went for coffee.

But after their date, Emily admitted she felt “there was no spark” between them, prompting him to do the unexpected: ask her to pay for her hot drink.

While Emily was horrified by his petulant response, Melbourne psychologist Carly Dober said the man’s reaction was tragically common and warned it was an “unhealthy approach to dating and relationships”.

“Men may behave this way in part because they feel entitled to a woman’s time and romantic or sexual investment if they have spent their time and any financial resources on that date,” Dober told news.com.au.

“It is very normal to be hurt and upset if you are rejected, and rejection is a very normal part of dating in the wider human experience, however it also indicates low emotional intelligence and/or low emotional regulation skills.

“A response like his would be expected from someone who has misogynistic views about women, or whose larger social and cultural environment has informed him that women are obligated to give you their time and energy.”

Emily seems to share that sentiment in her viral video which has been viewed over 85,000 times since it was posted on Monday.

“Oh my God, I actually can’t believe this just happened to me,” she begins in the TikTok clip.

“I was just on a date with this guy who asked me out after meeting him at the beach… We went for coffee, decided to keep it really cool.”

After returning home, Emily explained that she didn’t feel a romantic connection with her date, so she decided to text him in hopes that they could still be friends.

“I thought I’d be nice and text him and not ghost him,” she explained, before sharing the text.

It read: “Thank you very much for organizing the picnic, shame about the weather. It was nice meeting you, but I didn’t feel like there was a spark there, but maybe I’ll see you around. I hope you enjoy the rest of the weekend.â€

She ended the message with a smiley face emoji.

However, she was not well received, with the man quickly responding and asking her to reimburse him for the coffee she bought him.

“Hey! I agree – we are very different. I wish you the best. PS Your coffee was $6

He ended up sharing his Payid number so Emily could transfer the money.

“Six dollars? He asked me to send him six dollars for my coffee, – she said on TikTok.

She responded, explaining that she had “never heard of anyone asking a girl out and then asking for the money.” In her video, she stated that she had no plans to collect the money.

The exchange wasn’t over yet, with the mystery man claiming he had “no intention” of pursuing her romantically and would “appreciate it if you could cover your part”.

“Carrying such a small amount does not reflect well on you,” he concluded, in one final blow.

Dober, who works at Melbourne’s Enriching Lives Psychology clinic, said rejection lashing out is more common in men and actually hinders a girlfriend’s chances of finding love.

“If a relationship or intimacy is what they want, behaving this way will make it much less attainable for them,” she said.

“It can also make it hard for women to find the motivation to go on dates with other men if that’s what they’ve experienced, and they can be much less open to meeting new people and going out.” on dates if they feel like it. they owe men a simple coffee.

“It ends up making people lonelier, it doesn’t result in respectful and joyful relationships.”

News.com.au has contacted Emily for further comment.