Dear ABBY: I live in a building. I’m calm and I keep to myself. There is a janitor here who is very loud. When I receive my package, she asks, “So what’s in the package?” like I’m doing something dirty. She is also a terrible gossip and a liar.
At the front desk, as well as management, she has accused me of doing things that never happened – sexual misconduct, drug and tobacco use, etc. I started getting strange, unsigned messages with the same accusations. I can usually recognize who is contacting me. My contact information was available at the office.
This woman recently broke into my apartment using a master key. Fortunately, I was at home at the time. She was laid off but returned last weekend. Our manager said she is here “temporarily” until he finds a replacement. There are many copies of these keys out there and I don’t feel safe in my house anymore. What would you do if you were me? – OCCUPIED IN GEORGIA
DEAR CONQUERED: Document all incidents that occurred. If they continue, write the time and date they occur. This will come in handy if you need to escalate the issue. The fact that the manager rehired a fired employee due to understaffing is disappointing. (It shouldn’t have happened and there are better ways to increase staffing needs.)
Because your manager has not responded, contact the property owner or management company and report what happened. If this is not effective, report the matter to the police. Your safety and well-being must come first.
If you can afford to hire an attorney, consult with one for advice on legal options you can consider to protect yourself from harassment, hostility, or harassment. If the situation does not improve, consider finding a new place to live.
Dear ABBY: I am currently married but am seeking an annulment or divorce. I have met a woman whom I believe in. She knows my marital status and feels the same about me.
I promised her that my marriage would end in eight months, but she thinks that with my divorce, my wife should leave even if I move out and rent out my share of the house. (My soon-to-be ex and I live on opposite sides of the house.) Do you agree? – MAKING CHANGE IN NEW YORK
DEAR MAKE THE CHANGES: It doesn’t matter if I agree or not. The person who should answer this question is the lawyer who will represent you in the divorce. If you really plan to leave the marriage, make an appointment NOW to discuss it.
PS And please, give yourself time after the divorce is final instead of tying the knot again on the rebound.
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